Finding Our Place
Posted in Judy Fraser passed away Christmas 2018, quietly, at home with her family. She will be much missed by many.
This last month has been quite busy for one and all don’t you think? We are reviewing old programs that have become beliefs through habit. If we don’t change and update the programs then we run and re-run the old ones through habit. Now with the Summer Solstice it is up to us to cooperate with what is required in the coming phase. Change makes us feel vulnerable but it does not need to be threatening, we need the courage to be sincere, open and honest with ourselves. Until we do that inner work of sorting through childhood issues and the history of our communications with others we will remain stilted and or inaccurate. If we don’t want that anymore we need to overhaul our beliefs and so self-empower ourselves into our updated spaces, otherwise we continue to respond as children or as victims. What do we want in our current frame of reference? If we want more of the same, then fine, we can do what we have always done. If we want the connections within ourself and with others to change then we need to speak from the deepest level of our heart, almost like a gut feeling we get when we feel sick or fear filled. Only when we have the courage to do this can we find our what our soul and our deepest heart is directing us toward in the upcoming times.
Heading for greater things attracts bigger shadows. These may take the form of old beliefs of persecution and sacrifice, or as if we are being persecuted or sacrificed; attack or defense are another pair of opposites we need to release along with feeling attacked or the need to defend a position that has outlived its natural cycle. Judging and blaming, feeling judged or blamed is another scenario but hopefully we all get the idea it is the time to let old programs lie to enable ourselves to catch up to where we are now as we transcend and rise above the need to compete or be envious. We’ve balanced as best we are able, time to move on and decide for ourselves where to put our focus now. If others are not able to relate to who we are then they go in one direction and we go in another. Freedom for all is paramount, binding others to us who are unable to negotiate a frame that compliments all concerned with us requires us to free them. They will encounter all they need to somewhere else with others. We may have taken responsibility and have failed in what we thought we needed to achieve. So now we are to ‘hang out’ with those willing to live in the ‘now’ time that resonates with us.
Values change that may involve work, family or friends issues. Some we keep association with, others move to different groupings. It is good to encounter resistance it is what wakes us up and gives us the choice to move past feelings that have held us stuck in old ways. Where and to whom do we want to commit next? Forgiving and letting go of a need to control or manipulate anyone, the self included is important. We then find the courage and are able to be patient in our interactions with life, as we do so we find our unique role in the here and now. It can feel as if we are in a void but far from being inactive we find out what to focus on, where to be, who to associate with and who to release and bless into their way. Only when we catch up can we work out how to take the next step on our own journey, life supplies the answers even though it takes time and space to do so. This can feel lonely and endless but if we keep ‘doing the day’ we gradually understand what is required. Our willingness to cooperate with this freedom of movement for all shows the pathway to our expansion, we are no longer lost and we definitively start to make progress . Discernment is vital and as we practice it we are led to obvious next steps. Remaining detached externally we get in touch with our internal wisdom which shows us the way forward. None of us can be all things to all people nor should we be, it is easy to get confused so it is important we negotiate what is our ‘bit’ and which ‘bits’ are the responsibility of others.
From our menu of opportunities, gradually, some begin to yield and some close off as choices are made for us and by us, this is not controlling or manipulating events more just going with the obvious and logical. As we rise above opposites and old programming so we adapt to changes that occur in our field. We learn to open and be opened and so flow with Life as we create the new consciousness so as to fit our piece into the bigger picture Then we watch our attitude toward the happenings of the time so as to behave well because we want to. We begin to choose not to behave badly or like spoiled children who want monopolies. The ideals we choose have to be made real so it is better not to pitch ourselves to too high a standard or we wont be able to live up to those standards, taking one small step at a time enables steady progress. We need to be self-aware not arrogant if others are to value us rather than make use of us. We value the skills of people who have talents that compliment our own and as such new teams are formed. As one of my teachers informed me often ‘make haste slowly’!
So keep the love and forget the drama. Life is like a river that serves all comers. Some use it as a sacred bath, others play, some use it to spit or urinate but the river just keeps on flowing, it does not care or reject. It simply acts as an offering to all who care to take a dip or find refuge.
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